Working Through Life's Lessons

When something aggravates me, I remind myself  to learn from it and not to try to control it!

THIS IS A LESSON!

Every discomfort in life is a lesson you must learn.

Express gratitude for seeing the lesson and ask for guidance to learn from it.

WHAT AM I BEING LED TO RESOLVE?

What chakra is it affecting?  

Do I have physical symptoms?

Am I craving positive energy or protecting myself from loosing it?

What are the limiting beliefs I am holding on to?

Where do they come from?

Work to release and replace them.  Journal, herbs, tarot, crystals, astrology.

WHAT MY SOUL WANTS

Express my intention.

Do not try to control the path.  Trust the Universe to guide me to where I need to be.

Do not look to others to change or validate.  Communicate only to learn.

Imbalanced Chakras ... Craving or Protecting Positive Energy

I pay a lot of attention to my chakras and to trying to maintain balance.  So I love to find new clues to helping me identify imbalances and to resolve them.

I recently looked at my chakras as the generators of positive energy.

If I am generating positive energy from inside myself and sharing it freely with others, my chakras are balanced.  

If I am craving positive energy then my chakras are wide open trying to suck that energy in from people and experiences outside of myself.  I feel that people who are holding on to negative experiences where they were deprived of positive energy have this imbalance.

If I am trying to keep what little positive energy I have then my chakras are closed tight to keep any of my energy from being taken by outside influences.  I feel that people who are holding on to negative experiences where they were harmed by sharing their positive energy have this imbalance.

I have looked at the behaviors that come from these imbalances for each chakra.

OVERACTIVE	BALANCED	BLOCKED
Craving positive energy from outside	Generating positive energy from inside	Closed to sharing positive energy
	ROOT
I need more things. I am ready to fight.	What I have is just enough. I can try and do.	I deprive myself. I am ready to run away
	SACRAL
Look at me!!!!	I am true to myself and selfless.	Don't look at me.
	SOLAR PLEXUS
Tell me how great I am.	I am humble and have strong self worth.	I am worthless
	HEART
Please do it my way!.	I am compassionate and detached.	My way is best.
	THROAT
Listen to me.	I am honest.	I have nothing to say.
	BROW
I don't need to see reality.	I am insightful and trusting of the Universe.	I control my path.

Positive Communication .... Expressing Your Opinion or Expressing Your Intention

I keep finding myself giving my opinion about things.  Things that are really none of my business.  Things that I don't have a deep understanding of.  Things that are unimportant.  And I feel like that is generating a lot of negative energy around me.

So I spent some time thinking when an opinion is generating positive energy and when it is generating negative energy.  I found that I feel like there are times to express your opinion and times instead to express your intention and times when you are expressing your opinion when you should really be expressing your intention.

It is important to express my opinion when someone is asking me to share my expertise.

 Where I am an expert, because of my knowledge (as an experienced cake decorator, as a mother) or because of my familiarity with the subject (as a user of a product or service), I should express my opinion.

This is a time for talking. 

This is time for giving positive energy.

This is where I guide the path for others in the world by sharing experiences and lessons.

It is important to express my intention when I am a participant.

Where I am a participant (the parent of a student), I should express my intention.  And I should ask the expert in that area to express their opinion.  

This is a time for listening .. to myself, to the expert, to the universe.

This is a time for receiving positive energy.

This is where I trust to be guided on the path to my intention through experiences and lessons.

When I am a participant and I am expressing my opinion, I am trying to control the path or the outcome.

This is a time when I am talking (usually complaining or trying to illicit a particular answer to validate myself) and should instead be listening.

This is a time when I am generating negative energy.

Think about it like being the parent of a child who struggles in math.  In this situation you are the participant and the teacher is the expert.  

A positive communication would be to reach out to the teacher and express your intention "I would really like my daughter to improve her math grades."  And then you listen to the teacher describe the issues your child is having and you listen to the suggestion that she has to help your daughter improve.  Perhaps the teacher will ask you to share your opinion as the expert of how your child is handling their math homework.  

A negative communication would be to reach out to the teacher and express your opinion that the math curriculum is too challenging for your child and the the teacher needs to spend more time working with your child.   

Which do you think will manifest the more positive result for your child?

The next time I am having a discussion I am going to try to remember if I am the expert or the participant and see if I can't engage in more positive communication.